Updated: Feb 15
A method to help you achieve some of the resolutions that are meant for you.
If you think this is one of the many tips on how to fulfil your new year's resolution by losing weight, then you're wrong. Get that idea out of your head, and throw it in the trash. I've been writing my new year's resolution that works for me - and only me - for the past four years. And it's a system that I can measure, and makes me feel good about it. Not to mention the majority of things I put were free. See like it's a game with mini achievements.
Also, this method shouldn't make you say at the end of this year: "I didn't achieve all my goals, so I'm no better than I was last year" or "Wow, I didn't finish them; I wasted another year.". No, stop it! Throw that thought also in the garbage. I want this method to be able to apply to everyone because everyone is different. I know cheesy, ew. But that's a fact. Now let's make that list.
Now what you need is:
Writing tools. Could use different colors, in case you want to color code.
An A5 paper/notebook (consist of 26 rows). Unless you want a smaller list, go for an A6 paper/notebook (consist of 19 rows)
1. Write the things you need to do. (max 5)
Let this be the priority of your year so that your future-self doesn't have to worry about it. For example, I'm a student and I feel like passing the year or getting all my credits is good enough. Or you could specify for yourself: getting all my credits of my first year so that I can pass my propaedeutic phase (the propaedeutic year is part of the Dutch school system).
2. Write the things you want to do, regarding self-pampering for free. (max 10)
The best way to describe pampering, according to Wikihow, is: "Pampering yourself can include a wide range of activities, all of which should be tailored towards making you feel happy and relaxed." It can consist of your social life or mental health. Here, I'll give you a couple of examples of mine:
Play more video games.
Finish my long anime watch-list.
Check more on family and friends.
Designing my new tattoo.
Fix my old laptop.
Try creating motion designs.
As you can see, some relate to one another, while others don't. But that's all okay. Is it free and does it make you happy? Then write it down.
If you struggle to think of some, then look around your place and see what you want to do, but didn't manage to. Either because you barely had time for it or you procrastinated (guilty). Like, that book that you meant to read, emptying your inbox/spam, or thoroughly clean your room, etc. Basically this part you can also say, the things that could take up to 5 minutes - 2 hours of your day to mark it checked✓.
Regarding the introduction, if it has to do with your physique, you can also add it here. Whether it's gaining muscle, losing weight, or becoming more athletic. "But then I would have to spend money to pay for a gym membership. And invest more money in food and protein," which I usually hear. My answer: "You don't need to go to the gym to achieve your goal. You need to change your habits/lifestyle to get into that mentality so that you can later invest in that." And trust me, I know people who have paid a monthly subscription, and still didn't go to the gym. Find and adapt to the motivation first, before wasting money on something you're not going to do.
3. Write the things you really want, regarding money. (max 5.)
Yes, you deserve to treat yourself. And not in a way to buy an outfit or go to the salon/barber and get the whole treatment. No, honey, dream bigger. Here I would put something that I have been saving up for. Or something I can invest in. So like a tattoo or a new console. I would also love to travel to different countries, but in these times I'm not feeling so comfortable doing that. But the year just started, 3 vaccines just came out so it can always change.
Now let's say you maxed out all three (20), yet there are 26 rows. So the 6 remaining, I either let these open in case I come up with another later. Or immediately add more. Then at the end of the year, you can count and see how much you achieved of the total.
Now the goal is not to obsess to achieve all of them. You have 365 days (non-leap year) to finish them, so don't rush the process. The whole point of this is for you to invest time in yourself and doing the things you want to do/finish. Even small achievements you should be proud of. To maybe help you if you feel uninspired or demotivated, I chose a quote from Steve Harvey's late mother (which I feel is perfect for this occasion):
"You might not be where you want to be, but you sure aren't where you started."
Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this blogpost are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official views of Phryme.